When a woman is happy in a relationship, it’s easier for a guy to understand her negative emotions.
She seriously wants to know you’re making a real effort to connect with her emotionally and understand her. Your girlfriend wants to know you are on her team and looking to understand her point of view. The last thing you want to do is get pissed at her for her feeling the way she is. Figure out a way to empathize with her and figure out what’s upsetting her.
It will do you no good to get angry at her being mad. Strategy Three – Learn To Empathize With Her Feelings This is going to help your relationship become smoother and so much happier. All you have to do is learn to let her vent and calm down, making sure you don’t take in too much of her negative energy.
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Learning how to deal with each other’s negative emotion is key in creating a healthy relationship. Of course, it doesn’t help your cause to dismiss her anger or get crazy over it that’s for sure. There’s no doubt a messed up angry girl is seriously unpleasant, particularly if she is ticked with you.īeing angry is a completely normal part of being human. When your girl is ticked off, you will be angry. The goal is to take the heat out of the situation, so logic trumps emotion. The quicker you can remove yourself and get calm, the better. If she says something nasty, you are best to not react, as hard as that is. If you try to control an angry girl, you will force her to be defensive and push her to say the opposite of what you need to hear. How To Deal With An Angry Girlfriend Strategy One – Chill With The Emotions Not fun, but here are a few practical strategies to help you handle an upset girlfriend. If you didn’t care, there would never ever be confrontation. When you care about someone, there are bound to be emotions on the rise. Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, to her email, or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.The last thing you want to deal with is a pissed off girlfriend, but it does happen. Miss Manners: They irritate me with questions that are none of their business Harriette Cole: His girlfriend is way too young for him, and he won’t listen to me Larry Magid: Technology to help care for elder loved onesĬaltrans’ new anti-graffiti tactics may come to Bay Area: RoadshowĪsk Amy: Millennials, here’s the reason for your so-called trauma Your eyes - flat, expressionless - will demonstrate that the joke wasn’t funny.įinally, your brain, which is directing this complex response, should remember that, whatever happens now, you already won the bigger cause of contention: your husband. Your smile - bright, open, effusive - should convey that you understand the ex-girlfriend’s comment to be intended as humor. GENTLE READER: The response you are trying to convey has three components, each of which Miss Manners assigns to a different body part. It does irk me, though.Ĭan you think of a response that would let her know I got her intended message without being rude back? I don’t want to give her the satisfaction of being snarky back, so I give a nod and faint smile and don’t respond verbally. I’ve told him I would prefer he spend time with her on his own, but that isn’t always possible. She is my husband’s long-ago ex-girlfriend, or I would ghost her. These comments might sound innocuous, but I know her taste and opinions well enough to know they are thinly veiled digs. If you will promise to park it to one side - and not anywhere for long - Miss Manners will agree to remind other customers that it is not a major inconvenience if they have to ask you to move forward so that they can get to the canned peas.ĭEAR MISS MANNERS: How would you suggest I respond to someone who makes snarky comments in the guise of compliments?įor example, she comes into my new home and, after complimenting a lamp, adds, “Your house looks just like it’s been staged.” (When we were selling our previous home, she and I both made fun of how phony staging looks.) Or, an aside to her husband, “Look - she even has a special fall tablecloth.” Clothes? “Cute outfit - it looks just like what I wore in high school.” Food? “Yum - but I’ve never heard of cookies being made out of pastry dough.” She agrees with your husband, however, that leaving it in the middle of the aisle gives an appearance of thoughtless abandon. GENTLE READER: Without venturing to guess who does most of the family shopping - or who can reach items on the top shelf without assistance - Miss Manners will simply agree with you that being with the cart every second is not possible. Miss Manners: Is this really a violation of store etiquette?
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